Being in a relationship with someone you love is always something many of us dream of or fantasize about.
However, once you are in a relationship, you’ll find out that love is not always enough for a successful relationship. Other factors help a relationship grow.
While getting together with someone you share similar personalities and goals with is crucial, a compatible sense of humor is another factor that shouldn’t be ignored. Unfortunately, not many people know this.
The ability to roast your partner is one of the signs of a healthy relationship. But, of course, one need not to cross the line.
In this article, we’ll be looking at the meaning of roast in dating, and why it may be good or bad. Keep reading.
What Does Roast Mean in Dating?
Roast in dating means teasing your romantic partner. It’s the ability to poke fun at your partner or have fun at their expense without them getting offended.
Being in a relationship means you share lots of things. You share your personal space, you share time, and do lots of things together.
So, this means that you’ll be able to pick on your partner’s habits, know their likes, their dislikes, their pattern of doing things, and a good part of them.
Therefore, roasting means making fun of some of these habits or likes and dislikes. It’s just part of the things that are likely to happen to people who have a good time together.
According to a study by psychologists at the Martin Luther University Halle-Wittenberg, teasing your partner’s silly habits is the secret of a healthy relationship.
The study revealed that partners who have a good level of healthy teasing between each other are more likely to feel more physically and romantically attracted to each other.
Therefore, the ability to roast your partner shows how comfortable you are with each other. Whether it’s to tease them about their regular rushing to work or their likes for weird food combinations, roasting is a sign of a healthy relationship.
Reasons Why Roasting May Be Good in Dating
These are some of the reasons why roasting may be good for your relationship:
It Indicates Comfortability
The ability of romantic partners to poke fun at each other or laugh over one another’s quirks shows that they’re comfortable with each other.
Just like it’s natural for siblings to laugh over some things, so it’s with people who share some level of intimacy.
Usually, when two people meet and are getting to know each other, they’d be careful with what they say and how they act because they’re yet to be comfortable with each other.
Although with people that have similar sense of humor, it’d be easy for them to be sarcastic with each other. Yet, there’d still be a level of holding back until that comfortability is achieved.
And when they start to get comfortable with each other, it’s natural for them to tease each other. But, if they’re still holding back or one is still holding back, it begs some questions.
It’s a Sign That You Pay Attention to Each Other
Another reason why roasting may be good during dating is that it shows that both partners pay attention to each other.
One of the skills of a good roaster is the ability to use what they observe from people to create great one-liners.
So, if your partner can roast you for something you subconsciously did a few weeks ago, or playfully remind you of your quirks during a playful banter, it shows that they pay attention to the littlest of things about you.
It’s a good sign if these small things catch their attention. However, if they use it hurtfully, it becomes a problem.
It Adds Some Fun
Being in a relationship is not about saying “I love you” to each other all the time. That is not even possible.
Can you spend quality time with your partner? How do you spend your time together? Does it get boring quickly? How are your chats? Is it monotonous? Can you chat for a long time?
The things you do when you’re together and the energy you put in during your chats are what add fun to your relationship.
And roasting is part of the ways to create humor and spice up your conversations with your partner.
It’s just like playing pranks on your loved ones. In the end, you both have a good laugh. So, it’s with roasting your loved ones. The goal is for you both to share a good laugh.
It Shows That You’re Okay with Each Other’s Quirks
Nobody is perfect. Everyone has their quirks and habits that are peculiar to them. And even though you don’t do silly things, you’ve got your trait which will reflect in your behavior.
However, it’s not everyone that’ll be comfortable with these habits of yours.
It could be that you talk too loud, you snore, you cry over some cute cat videos, you’re always rushing to work, you take time to make up your mind concerning food, and several more.
And, as I’ve already established, it’s not everyone that’ll be comfortable with these behaviors. So, if your partner can tease you about these things, it most times shows that they’re okay with it.
It might be something they naturally don’t like, but because it’s you, they don’t mind. So, roasting during dating is a sign that they’re okay with these things they tease you about. And most times, it’s what they find cute about you.
It Deepens the Bond
There’s something about laughing together with your significant other over something one of you did.
It’s somewhat sacred, something shared between you two. If he can laugh at you for sleeping with your mouth open without you getting hurt, it shows something deeper, it shows you’ve gotten to another level, something that’s unique to only you two.
So, roasting your partner connects you two on a whole new and deeper level.
It Can Serve as a Lighthearted Rebuke
Playfully raising some issues helps deal with them softly. Roasting your partner over something that you’re not comfortable with can show them your displeasure over it.
So, it’s completely okay to call out your partner once in a while jokingly. Hopefully, they should get the hint. For instance, you can poke fun at them for forgetting to flush the toilet, next time they’d be careful.
Reasons Why Roasting May Be Bad in Dating
While we’ve agreed that it’s completely okay to roast your partner during dating, there are some instances why it might be a bad idea.
Here are some reasons why roasting may be bad for your relationship:
Your Partner May Not Share the Same Sense Of Humor
If your partner does not share the same sense of humor as you or doesn’t even have a level of sense of humor, it’ll be difficult for roasting to work.
As I’ve previously mentioned, humor compatibility is crucial in a relationship. It’s not everyone that knows how to take a joke, and some don’t take every joke
So, if you’re yet to understand that your partner lacks a sense of humor and can’t detect playful sarcasm, it’ll be difficult if you’re the opposite.
These kinds of people will be easily hurt by jokes. They won’t be able to tell when you’re joking. Also, they’ll take every word and action literally and too seriously, which will pose a problem in the long run.
Your Partner May Be too Sensitive
If your partner is too sensitive, roasting may be a problem. Not everyone might be like you who jokes a lot. So, before getting into a relationship with someone, you should understand their personality.
What easily gets them hurt? Is there a memory that’s too hurtful to remember? Is there a topic that they don’t like to discuss?
These are some of the things you should look out for in your potential partner so that you’ll know if they’d be okay with your kind of person.
In addition, while roasting is a sign of a healthy relationship, being too playful or joking a lot might be a problem.
You May Not Know When You Cross the Line
Another reason why roasting may be bad during dating is that both partners may not know when they cross the line.
Poking fun at each other is all fun until one person crosses the line. And the crazy part about crossing the line is that you can’t tell when it’ll happen and you can’t be too careful.
However, the good thing about a healthy relationship is the ability to forgive. And of course, if you truly love each other, you’d try for a repeat not to happen. But, when it does happen, you should know how to be sorry.
Misunderstanding Is Likely to Happen
Another problem that might arise with roasting during dating is that misunderstandings are likely to happen.
You might playfully tease your partner but they end up reading another meaning into it.
As humans, it’s natural for misunderstanding to happen, and roasting your partner can create room for such to happen.
However, when it does happen, you should be able to talk through it and resolve it.
End Note
Roasting in a relationship is good. It’s a sign of a healthy relationship. If you love someone and you’re comfortable with them, you should be able to tease them about some of their quirks.
However, while making fun of them is good and can add spice to your relationship, you should keep in mind that it can be a problem if your partner doesn’t have the same sense of humor as you or is too sensitive.
In addition, always keep in mind that too much of everything isn’t good, so if you’re the type always playing and joking around, it can be a problem too.